Do You Want To Overcome Codependency In Your Marriage?
Are you married to an alcoholic or someone who has serious personal problems?
Are you having difficulties in your marital or family life as a result of troubles, financial concerns, abuse, or caring for a physically or emotionally disabled family member?
If that’s the case, do you find yourself creating excuses for your problems? Is your alcoholic husband calling in sick? Taking over the housekeeping because your poor husband is too depressed to assist? Denying that there is abuse in your home? Do you find yourself in command of your marriage or family and shouldering its responsibilities?
You could be codependent, which is a major problem in marriages and families.
Because of your family history, you may have learned to be codependent. Because it happened in your family, you’re more likely to marry into the same position.
You may have picked up habits like making excuses, zoning out, dominating, over-caring, and being hyper-vigilant because you feel obligated to save your family from embarrassment or at the very least diffuse the issue and keep the peace. You also do this because you want to be needed and are afraid of upsetting the connection.
Unfortunately, while such activities may temporarily alleviate friction and tension, they will not assist in the long run. All you’re doing is exacerbating the problem and perhaps making it worse. You’re also allowing yourself to become lost in the situation, and you might find yourself unable to deal in the long run.
What can you do in your marriage and family to overcome codependency?
Congratulations if you are reading this short article and have realized that you do have this problem. That is the first step toward overcoming codependency. Recognize that you have an issue and take actions to address it. Both self-help and expert assistance will be required.
These disorders are frequently caused by deep-seated psychological concerns. Don’t allow shame prevent you from obtaining counseling or psychological help. There are other programs like Codependents Anonymous that can assist you in processing your difficulties and providing you with tools to help you overcome them.
Your partner or family member may require professional assistance as well, particularly if they are dealing with chronic issues or addiction. Whether they want it or not, work to get them the aid they require.
If there is abuse in your home, you must take more drastic measures. Break away from the situation for your own self-respect and the sake of your children, if you have any. Find a shelter or support group that can assist you in gaining your freedom as well as healing and recovery.